Sun-ripened sweet fruit is great all by itself, but have you ever put salt on your fruit? Watermelon, cantaloupe, peaches, green apples, pineapples, if you haven’t put salt on these you are missing out! Salt amplifies the natural flavor of fruit. So when you have fruit that is not as sweet as you would like it to be, a little salt is just the thing to enhance its taste. In the same way, seasoning our words with salt can amplify the message and at the same time enhance the taste of it in our spouse’s mouth.
Why would you add salt to your words? You may think your words are sweet enough. Sometimes they are as some people are just gifted at sweet-talking their spouse. Sweet talk can have its place. But sometimes your spouse can see right through it. They can see the scheme, they can see the ulterior motive and they can come to resent it. They may even tell you, “That ain’t working this time!”
Here’s the key. Sweet talk is used to manipulate a spouse into action. Salted words are used to motivate a spouse into action. When your motives are pure and not selfish, when you go to God in prayer and ask Him for the right words and the right seasoning, your salted words can be the sweetest thing your spouse has ever heard. With sweet talk you are leaning to your own understanding. But with salted words you are relying on God to work on the spirit of your spouse on something that you feel is beneficial for your household. Your words may be sweet, but when you add a little salt on top of them you are partnering with God to enhance and amplify your message to your spouse.
(Excerpt from our book, "Salted VS Salty Conversation - Communicating for a healthy
marriage")
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